Did I Do That?

One of the great benefits of therapy is the realisation that you had what you needed all along. When people feel stuck its because they don’t see any option or a path in their life that they feel good about. Often they bring this into the session as an unsolvable problem. But they also bring in with them all the facts, all the relevant information that will go into making their eventual good decisions.

The therapist, after all, cannot know the details of your life on which good decisions must always be predicated. They can dig for them and even point them out, but they cannot bring them into the room.

The choices you make that feel ‘correct’ or morally ‘right’ or which feel like healing, all of these are paths you can already take. You might be ignoring them or mischaracterising them or even shying away, but they are there. You have the tools you need to change your situation or at the very least adapt to it.

And once you learn that (and I mean really learn it by going through the experience of discovering it first hand) its not something you ever forget. You don’t forget the feeling of being strong enough to move on or forgive. You don’t forget the peaceful aftermath of raw grief or the exciting strength of seeing your decisions come to life in the world.

It means that whether your therapeutic journey has been long or short, if you have committed to therapy and achieved the goals you set yourself, you’ll realise you are strong enough to do it again, perhaps strong enough to do it on your own, perhaps strong enough to help others.