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Sometimes the trick to mental health recovery is not mindfulness or insight, it is just bleak endurance. This is because our brains can put us through hell when they want to: when they are out of balance or starved of an addiction or when they are sounding the alarm about invisible threats. It can be hard to just get through the night. At such times it might be beyond our strength to be focused or skillful or disciplined. We simply have to ride out the storm. But a couple of

One of the great benefits of therapy is the realisation that you had what you needed all along. When people feel stuck its because they don’t see any option or a path in their life that they feel good about. Often they bring this into the session as an unsolvable problem. But they also bring in with them all the facts, all the relevant information that will go into making their eventual good decisions. The therapist, after all, cannot know the details of your life on which go

Every day we navigate the needs of other people and find ways to seek mutual benefit. This is the most basic aspect of our social behaviour and it crops up very early in human development. From early infancy we are trading off our own needs against the interests and boundaries set by other people and there is nothing wrong with this at all. It makes the world go ‘round. What is surprising though is how seldom we look inward with that same deal-making mindset. Maybe you feel l